Q- WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO WRITE YOUR BOOK?
A- I had repressed so many emotions that eventually I reached my breaking point, and it was not a pretty sight. My journaling journey unexpectedly transformed into a book. I needed to tell the world that you can overcome any trauma and rise above it.
Q- ARE YOU READY FOR ANY NEGATIVE INPUT FROM YOUR FAMILY?
A-I am ready for whatever they bring my way because now I’m stronger and I know howto handle situations I couldn’t before.
Q-How does your daughter feel about your childhood?
A- My daughter thanks me every day for giving her an amazing childhood. I couldn’t have done it without her father and his family. My daughter tells me to turn the negative issues and make them positive by overcoming them.
Q- What was your reaction when you found out about your diagnosis?
A- I was shocked and disbelieving and the doctor explained to me how trauma can cause this illness and it became all so clear to me. I ran my body and mind into the ground.
Q- Do you feel you and your mother will ever have a relationship?
A- No, we have tried so many times; I grieve not having a relationship with my mother every day, but when you have narcissistic tendencies, it’s hard to deal with someone like that.
Q- What are your upcoming projects?
A- I am working on a sequel, but I am finishing up an unrelated book about four best friends and how they grow together and deal with life as their life’s problems while still being best friends.
Q- How did you deal with your abuse and what do you have to say to people who are struggling?
A- I’m in therapy and therapy is an excellent tool. There’s nothing wrong with hashing out your issues with someone biased. I had to learn that it wasn’t my fault because, for a long time, I blamed myself and held all that pain in.
Q- Do You hope for any closure or answers from your family?
A- I do, but it won’t be what I want to hear. What I want is a fantasy and I know my family is not perfect, but I hoped they would act like a human being. Blood is not thicker than water.
Q- Has this non-existent relationship affected your relationship with your daughter?
A- Yes. I am very over-protected and overbearing with my daughter. I do everything the opposite of what my mother did, plus I spoil her to this very day.
Q- Do you believe you’re a better mother than your mother and why?
A- Yes, even though I was young, I still made sure my child was loved and protected. Being there when she needed a shoulder to cry on, I advised her regardless of her willingness. As her biggest cheerleader, I always encouraged her. I supported them in everything she wanted to do. I told her she can be whatever makes her happy. Showed my daughter to be a fierce woman and she is exactly that. She calls herself, The Baddest.